Shit I’m Digging This Week: Volume Nine

Hey Peeps!

Can you believe it’s March already? Happy Women’s History Month! We also have the spring equinox making a guest appearance in two weeks. I don’t know about you, but I’m so over cold temperatures and snow. Yesterday’s weather was bananas—a low of 21 and a high of 32 degrees in NYC. I thought we were turning the tide! I’m desperate for Mother Nature to step out from the shadows and get her glow on. BRING ITMUTHA! I feel like I blinked, and February flew by, but these last two months have been SUPER productive for me. I’m on track to completing my first quarter goals, and I’m excited to share all the things I’ve been working on. 😊

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Now, without further ado, here’s the shit I’ve been digging:

Read 📚

This book is full of practical advice when it comes to (in the words of Congresswoman Maxine Waters) reclaiming your time. I’m guilty of saying, “I don’t have enough hours in the day to do XYZ.” Well, this book made me think long and hard about why. When you focus on how you spend your time, you can accomplish more than you ever imagined. Time blocking has become my jam, y’all! Downward spirals happen, procrastination happens, but this book helps steer the reader in a positive direction. Dive in and get ready to conquer your to-do list! 

An article worthy of your time: Poet Danez Smith shares his experience on dating and being HIV+

Listen 🎧

The classical genre isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but I promise you’ll quickly become a fan once you find artists you like. I dig Bach. I also adore violin concertos. Mash ‘em up with modern artists, and you get Hilary Hahn + the LA Orchestra alongside Jeffrey Kahane. I bought this CD years ago, but lately, I’ve been streaming the album on Spotify when I want to get into the zone and concentrate on tasks with minimal distractions (it’s PERFECT to listen to while writing). I also recommend listening after a long day. It’s a fantastic way to relax and unwind. #decompressyoself

NPR is heavenly! They offer superb podcasts, but I really love Life Kit because who doesn’t want to learn how to hack life? I suggest listening to the episodes back to back to get the full effect. The links will take you to Spotify, but you can also find the episodes on Apple Podcasts.

The Smart Way to Fall in Love

Description: You might remember Mandy Len Catron from her hit Modern Love essay about going through 36 questions to fall in love. You might have even tried those questions yourself. Catron’s book is called How to Fall in Love With Anyone, and Vice’s Rachel Wilkerson Miller spoke with her about it.

Getting Comfortable with Self-Pleasure 

Description: Human touch is essential. But in a socially distanced world, lots of people are starved for it. Figuring out what feels good to you, from a long hot bath to something more intimate, can be the first step to getting that much-needed touch. (Yes, this episode includes discussions of sex and sexuality.)

Download 📱

It’s natural to want to stay in the know, but being too plugged in can be detrimental to your physical and mental health. The news is often overwhelming. Doomscrolling through your social media feeds can needlessly increase anxiety levels. We all should incorporate digital detoxes into our lives, but if you’re going to spend time scrolling on your phone, why not make it productive? This lil app feeds you THEE BEST information in five-minute segments. It’s a gamechanger! Uptime is available for download via the Apple App Store. iPhone user here, but Android users of the world, I hope you’re able to get in on the fun too!

Watch 📺

I ❤ SAM TRAMMELL! I’ve been a stan since True Blood. I also felt like there was no way in hell he could handle Sookie *spoiler alert*, which is why the ending of the Sookie Stackhouse series annoys me to this day, but I digress. Reckoning is a great way to pass the time if you’re into darker shows. I blew through the episodes in a week! Reckoning is currently streaming on Netflix.

And that’s all, folks. I hope the shit I’ve been digging brings you some joy! Till next time…💕


Hey Folks! Happy “Drown your significant other in red and pink while drowning yourself in debt” Day – more commonly known as Valentine’s Day! 

I mean, if we’re keeping it real, your special someone should show you how much you’re adored all 365 days of the​ year, amirite? But that’s the thing about relationships. What should be obvious isn’t always. Platonic relationships/friendships aren’t that different from romantic/intimate relationships. 

Both require effort

Both require open communication

Both require self-reflection/emotional development 

I started reevaluating my friendships back in 2016 after the election. Talk about a reality check. No one wants to scan their contacts and wonder if that person is a raging racist. Do they believe all Mexicans are rapists? Would they respect someone who mocks the disabled? Are they totally on board with a man accused of multiple sexual assaults being the leader of the free world? Sadly, I learned people I trusted and thought highly of claimed to be allies of marginalized communities yet fully committed to the Trump brand. I have no desire to keep space in my life for people like that.

​When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.  ― Maya Angelou  

One thing 2020 taught me is that relationships are like the NYC transit system. Unpredictable. You should always have a backup plan. Some relationships will endure through the toughest of times, and others will crumble. Sometimes you have to take a step back and let them die. It’s taken me a long time to reach that conclusion. The COVID-19 pandemic put a strain on many of my relationships already on their last leg, and I let them go with ease. I much preferred to Marie Kondo my life and “tidy up.” 

Think about the people in your life you consider friends. Do they bring you joy? Do they uplift you? Push you to be your best self? Rally around you when you need to vent about little things? Support you in all your kooky endeavors? Communicate and tell you things you don’t want to hear even when you need to hear them? Friendships should be reciprocal. If you’re always reaching out and providing support, but you don’t get it in return, ask yourself why. Are your feelings any less important? Why are you there for others, but they’re never there for you? 

On a day when we’re supposed to celebrate love, I ask that you reassess your relationships. Make a conscious effort to love yourself better by making space for people who genuinely love and support you. You deserve it.

Till next time…💖

Black History Month Gems

Hey Party People!

Happy Hump Day. In theory, I should’ve had this post up at the beginning of the month, but better late than never! Although February may be the shortest month of the year, it’s always ​🔥🔥🔥 because it’s Black History Month!!!! Btw, check out the portfolios of the photographers who shot the gorgeous images above here, here, and here. Such stunning work!

​We’re only a few days into the month, but if you’re looking to hip yourself to Black content, I’ve compiled a list of coolness below. Check it out! 👇 

If you need a TV fix, allow me to introduce you to TV shows/movies/documentaries with Black lead characters:

Chewing Gum (now streaming on HBO Max)

Long before I May Destroy You Michaela Cohen was killing it! I guarantee this show will tickle your funny bone. Chewing Gum is a British television sitcom created and written by Michaela Coel, based on her 2012 play Chewing Gum Dreams. It stars Coel and Robert Lonsdale. Set in London, the show follows 24-year-old shop assistant Tracey Gordon, a restricted, religious virgin (and Beyoncé stan), who wants to have sex and learn more about the world.  Description via Wikipedia

Lupin (now streaming on Netflix)

If intrigue is high on your list, you’ll want to give this series a go.   

The Black Church: This Is Our Story, This Is Our Song

The Black Church: This Is Our Story, This Is Our Song will explore the 400-year-old story of the Black church in America, the changing nature of worship spaces, and the men and women who shepherded them from the pulpit, the choir loft, and church pews. You can watch the extended three-minute trailer herePart one airs on PBS on 2/16/21, Part two airs on 2/23/21.

The United States vs. Billie Holiday (streams on Hulu 2/26/21) 

I’m excited about this not only because of the subject matter but because of Andra Day. THE LADY CAN SAAAAAANG! I’m hoping her acting chops are on par with her singing. Also, Lee Daniels makes pretty good movies. Sidenote: If you haven’t seen The Butler, I highly recommend it. 

Food For Thought

Here are some articles to read during Black History Month worthy of your time:

“Black Women Best”: The U.S. Economy Benefits When We Center Black Women

Viola Davis on Colorism in Hollywood: ‘If You Are Darker Than a Paper Bag, Then You Are Not Sexy, You Are Not a Woman’  

Moderna Vaccine Co-Lead Dr. Kizzmekia Corbett Shares Her Journey

‘Black Wall Street’: The history of the wealthy Black community and the massacre perpetrated there  

 28 Black Women Athletes Who Made Sports History  

Support Black Businesses ✊🏾

Looking to give your coins to Black businesses? Looking to learn more about Black entrepreneurs and content creators? Want to center Black women? I’ve got you! 😘 

  Just a List of Hundreds of Businesses Led by Black Women+  

Black-Owned Home and Lifestyle Brands to Support Now and Forever

7 Black Designers on the Unique Challenges of Establishing Their Own Brands

 28 Emerging & Established Black Fashion Photographers to Know 

There’s been a shift in our nation, and now, it’s even more critical to center Black voices.
Be authentic. Uplift. Speak out. Collaborate. Educate.

Till next time…💗

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